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Whose Truth Is It?
- Jul 22
- 3 min read
Hola beautiful souls...i have a thought to ponder. So here goes...We live in a world where “speaking your truth” has become a sacred mantra. And don’t get me wrong—I’m here for it. Owning your story, expressing your experience, and shedding the weight of silence is incredibly empowering and healing. But lately, I’ve been sitting with a question that nudges just a little deeper:
What happens when our truth clashes with someone else’s?
Whose truth is it… really?
Let’s pull back the curtain a bit.
Your truth is valid. Full stop.
But it’s also shaped by your lens—your emotions, your wounds, your hopes, your nervous system, your memories (which, let’s be real, are influenced as much by feelings as they are by facts). And theirs? Equally shaped. Equally valid. Equally incomplete.
So when two people recount the same moment and walk away with wildly different truths…they’re both telling the truth as they experienced it.
And the actual, raw, whole truth?
It’s probably living somewhere in the in-between.
Why This Matters (More Than Ever)
When we only cling to our version of events, we create walls. But when we recognize that truth isn’t a single spotlight—it’s a prism—we start building bridges.
This isn’t about gaslighting yourself or silencing your truth to make space for someone else’s. It’s about honoring complexity. It’s about stepping out of defensiveness and into dialogue.
In energy work, I often say: what’s unacknowledged becomes stagnant. That applies here too. If we can’t hold room for more than one version of “what happened,” we stay stuck in loops of blame, pain, and resistance.
So…how do we do it differently?
Getting to the “Shared Truth”: A Few Soulful Practices
Pause Before Reacting
The body speaks before the mind sorts it out. When you're triggered, give yourself a moment before responding. That tiny breath can be the difference between reacting from pain and responding from power.
Name the Emotion, Not Just the Event
“I felt unseen when you said that,” lands differently than “You were ignoring me.” Language creates either connection or confrontation. Choose words that open the door.
Practice Sacred Listening
Listen to understand, not to reload. Try repeating back what the other person shared—not to agree, but to validate that you heard them. “What I’m hearing is that you felt…” can soften even the hardest exchanges.
Get Curious, Not Certain
Certainty is armor. Curiosity is invitation. Ask questions. Be willing to learn something new about them—and about yourself.
Ask: What’s the Shared Impact?
Even if two stories don’t align perfectly, what did happen that both parties can acknowledge? What’s the mutual wound or moment that needs healing?
The Soul Work of Truth
Navigating truth isn’t a competition. It’s a practice. A dance. A mirror.
And sometimes? The highest form of spiritual maturity is being able to say,
“That wasn’t how I experienced it, but I can see how it landed that way for you.”
Let’s speak our truths—but let’s also hold space for someone else’s.
Because in that sacred middle ground…is often where the real healing begins.
reflection?
✨ Try this: Journal about a moment of conflict. What was your truth in that moment? Then write out what you imagine their truth might’ve been. No need to judge it—just witness it.
And if you're navigating a hard conversation right now and want to hold it with grace, book a session with me. Sometimes, having a spiritual mirror (aka a tarot card or intuitive insight) can offer the clarity you didn’t know you needed.
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